When I started helping clients get organized (way back in 1998), and when I started leading parenting classes (in 2006,) never did I think these two things were connected. I organized so I could stay home with the kids and to be honest, I still get a thrill from cleaning out a kitchen drawer. Don't judge me until you try it. Every time you open that kitchen drawer (for a few months at least), your heart sings like an angel.

I started leading parenting classes because I discovered that while I was in parenting classes I was a firmer and friendlier parent (not too strict, not too wishy washy). I remembered to train children. I took the time to listen to them. Sometimes I stopped myself from trying to teach in the heat of an angry moment (no one can learn when they are angry or being attacked). And just like the participants I went understanding that I didn’t have to be perfect. I just had to show up, try, laugh and encourage.

When I wanted the house neater, instead of demanding, convincing or nagging, I worked on the relationship. I listened more. I took the time to watch favorite YouTube videos. I noticed their contributions and let them know I appreciated them. When I felt the relationship straining, I decluttered my desk, or their cubby, our calendar and often times a surge of positive feelings flowed through the newly opened and de-cluttered space. Magic!